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Within each day, sometimes moment to moment, the wind changes. Blowing first this way, then that. Rushing straight across our path, or swirling around us. Sometimes it is so quiet we don’t even notice the air around us, other days it threatens to topple us. Whenever I stand outside, I am flooded with the reality of our natural world – as well as the metaphors and symbols within it. (Yes, sometimes in NL we DO use metaphors!)
The wind is a very real aspect of nature – we feel it viscerally as it presses on our bodies and requires us to find our literal footing. How do we stand in ever-changing winds? It’s practice, really. In our infancy it is tremendously difficult, but as we grow and develop, our core strengthens, our feet become more solid on the ground. We ground our feet, find our core, and hold our heads high. We are much more capable of withstanding the push, the pull, the swirling. And as we gain wisdom in our minds and bodies, we know how to prepare when the winds will be too strong, and we know how to soften and receive when the winds are gentle and caressing. It is an embodied experience; but the same is true on a symbolic level.
Within our lived days, particularly as helpers and healers, we find ourselves surrounded by ever changing winds. Ever changing pressures acting on us. People, animals, and situations pull us and push us and swirl around us. Asking, telling, demanding, pleading, negotiating…how do we find our footing in this complexity?
For me, secure footing comes from secure attachment.
When I first became a therapist, I said yes to everything. Every client, every time slot, every invitation, every conversation. I wanted all the experience and was terrified of failure, so I assumed doing everything would be the best way to succeed.
“Can I call you this evening, I really need to talk!?”
“Can’t you fit me in at the end of the day, I really need a session!”
“I know our time is up but just one more thing….”
“We just met but I really trust you and I want to tell you about my trauma from when I was 5 years old…”
I felt the pressure of being needed – the push, the pull, the swirling – and I gave in, over and over. I allowed myself to drift in the wind. And over time I started to resent my clients, resent the extra time and the extra conversations, I was tired and overwhelmed, and sometimes, dangerously, found myself way in over my head. It was a professional, ethical problem – but also a personal one. Of course what was showing up in my professional life was also showing up in my personal life.
The pressure of being a wife, of being a mother, a friend, a daughter…all that pushing and pulling. It is so easy to get swept up, swept away.
When we work in this field, we often encounter people at their most vulnerable, sometimes this means their behavior is not easy to engage with. I’ve had clients cry in my sessions, of course, but they’ve also yelled, and stormed out, demanded results, and pushed at my boundaries, pushed me away and then scrabbled to claw me back, questioned my competence, and insisted I had hurt them. Talk about changing winds!
My own secure attachment is a necessary ingredient for me to feel, and be, competent, capable, ethical, and honestly, sane, as I do this work of supporting others in their most vulnerable moments.
We define secure attachment as essentially the same thing as brain integration. An integrated brain has developed optimally – with strong neural pathways within and between regions so everything works as it should and communication travels smoothly from one region to the next.
Secure attachment is an experience in which we were offered an optimal environment of protection, attunement, soothing, delight, and unconditional support. This optimal environment results in optimal brain development. They reflect (dare I say, mirror?!) each other.
When these two things are alive in us, we have the space for calm in relationships, for regulation. We find flexibility and fluidity. We find rhythm. Not only do we feel protected, seen, soothed, delighted in and supported, we are able to offer these experiences to others as well. This doesn’t mean we are perfect, it means we have the capacity.
This is how we find our footing in the stormy winds.
Secure attachment is about a stillness, deep within us, that exists no matter the chaos around us. No matter which way the wind blows, we can still hear ourselves. Secure attachment means we have a core self to come back to when we doubt, when we wonder, when we feel the pressure of outside influence.
Unfortunately, for many of us, this is a foreign concept. A fantasy perhaps. Or a goal that we feel we fall short of, routinely. We did not get to choose to be securely or insecurely attached – it is a thing that happened to us, out of our control. I feel a grief in my throat when I say this. No one is more or less deserving, no one is securely or insecurely attached based on merit. We were babies once, and that is when we did what we had to to survive, and our attachment patterns are the result.
The silver lining here is that we all have brilliant, changeable brains. Our bodies and brains have information to give us, and are ready to evolve. Secure attachment can be learned, and it must be practiced.
As I grow my secure attachment, my fluidity and flexibility in relationships grows, including the relationship I have with myself. I can hold boundaries with empathy, I can find creative solutions to dilemmas, I can sense when it is time to soften in and down, or when it is time to summon my strength and stand tall. I can bring my energy up and make a request, or exhale and drop into relaxation and rest, or hold myself in a balance of the two.
This isn’t just personal work, it is professional development as well.
Showing up for our clients in a body, mind, and soul that is regulated, connected, confident, flexible, authentic, and ready to give is no easy feat. This work asks so much of us.
This community of people offers themselves in the aid of others – day in and day out. I am in awe of the work you all do.
My hope for you is that you find your footing, you find your calm in the ever changing winds, in order to prevent burnout, improve your boundaries, inform your choices, support your sense of connection, and leave enough for yourself when the work is done.
Secure attachment may not have been something all of us received, but it is something every one of us can build. And in work as demanding and sacred as this, it is essential. When we intentionally practice secure attachment, we strengthen our capacity to remain grounded in the winds of our clients’ pain, complexity, and growth.
If you are ready to deepen your footing, expand your resilience, and show up for your clients with greater clarity, regulation, and authenticity, we invite you to step into this work with us. Don’t practice alone, join a community committed to growing together in The Practice of Secure Attachment.
Many people arrive at this work carrying stories that live not just in memory, but in muscle, breath, posture, and movement. These stories shaped how they learned to protect themselves. They also shaped how their nervous systems learned to survive.
Healing those stories asks for more than technique. It asks for presence. It asks for rhythm. It asks for a relationship that can hold both the past and the present at the same time.
This is the heart of why we chose to bring Rhythmic Riding and Equine Connected EMDR together.
Over the years, we noticed that even though these trainings were offered separately, they were already leaning toward one another. They were speaking the same language, just at different moments in the learning journey. Eventually, it became clear that separating them no longer served the people learning with us, or the depth of the work itself.
Rhythmic Riding is the mounted component of NL, but that description only scratches the surface. At its core, this training is about learning how to let yourself be carried —physically, emotionally, and relationally.
When a person sits on the back of a horse and allows the horse’s movement to guide their body, the nervous system receives steady, patterned, bilateral input. The body starts to organize itself without being told to. Breath finds a rhythm. Muscles soften. Awareness widens.
As riders begin to sense their bodies more clearly, they also begin to notice the horse. Over time, sensation, movement, emotion, and thought begin to coexist rather than compete.
This matters. A body that can feel and think at the same time has more space to stay present. It has more room to be curious instead of guarded. And, it has more ability to remain here.
Rhythmic Riding creates the conditions for this kind of internal safety to emerge.
One of the most important capacities developed in Rhythmic Riding is what we call dual connection.
Dual connection is the ability to remain aware of what is happening inside your body while also staying in relationship with another being. In this work, that other being is often the horse.
This skill does not happen in an instant. It is practiced slowly, through repetition, through noticing, and through moments of attunement and repair. Riders learn to track their internal experience while also noticing the horse’s responses. They learn how to breathe with the horse, and how to respond to the horse’s needs without losing themselves in the process.
In trauma processing language, this capacity is often described as dual attention, where one foot is in the present, while the other is touching the past. Rhythmic Riding teaches this through the body, long before any traumatic memory is named or revisited. It teaches the nervous system that connection does not have to disappear when things feel intense.
Equine Connected EMDR relies on rhythmic, bilateral movement to support the processing of traumatic memory. Often, this movement comes from the horse itself. What we have learned over time is that trauma processing unfolds more gently and more efficiently when the body already knows how to stay.
Before these trainings were combined, participants often spent much of the EC-EMDR training rebuilding what Rhythmic Riding had already taught. Time was spent helping bodies settle, re-establishing connection with the horse, and practicing regulation skills before meaningful processing could begin.
Bringing these trainings together allows that foundation to remain intact. The body does not have to start over, and the learning does not lose momentum. Instead, participants arrive at EC-EMDR with a nervous system that has already practiced staying connected, even when things feel vulnerable.
Another reason we chose to combine these trainings is relational continuity.
When people work with the same horses, trainers, and learning community across consecutive days, trust deepens naturally. The horse becomes familiar. The body remembers, and the nervous system recognizes safety without having to relearn it.
Rather than stepping away and returning months later, participants are able to continue forward while relationship and regulation are still present. This allows the work to unfold more naturally. It also gives our trainers more flexibility to meet people where they truly are, so they can adjust the pace and depth with care and responsiveness.
When regulation, integration, and dual connection are well established, trauma processing can look very different.
Clients may move through memory while staying deeply connected to the horse beneath them. They may notice the horse slow and gently respond. They may breathe together during moments of intensity and return to the memory without losing their grounding.
The horse is not simply providing movement. The horse is participating in the relationship by offering cues, regulation, and most importantly, presence.
When the body has built enough internal support, traumatic memory no longer needs to hold the same weight. The memory remains, but how it lives in the body begins to change.
This work asks a lot of the nervous system. It asks us to stay present with what once felt unbearable. It asks us to remain in relationship while moving through experiences that shaped how we learned to protect ourselves.
That is why how we learn matters just as much as what we learn. Bringing Rhythmic Riding and EC-EMDR together allows the work to unfold in a way that feels supported from the inside out.
If this way of learning speaks to you, we would love to welcome you into the circle. There is space here to slow down, to practice, and to be met with care.
Learn more about the March Rhythmic Riding + EC-EMDR training or register when you feel ready.
We often imagine flow as something smooth, a sense of ease or a feeling that things are finally clicking into place without effort or friction.
Yet lived experience tells a different story.
True flow, especially in therapeutic work, often emerges when things feel awkward, heavy, or uncomfortable. It shows up when the body is asked to do something it does not want to do, and when the nervous system has to organize itself in real time rather than retreat or shut down.
Some of the most meaningful movement forward happens when ease is not available.
Years ago, Tim and I were working with a teenage client whose depression was severe and life-threatening. He had already survived multiple suicide attempts. Hospitalizations were frequent, and he had been out of school for months.
On one particular day, the pasture was a mess. Weeks of rain had turned the ground into thick, sticky mud. The horses had churned it until there was no clear path forward, only slick patches and deep places that grabbed at your feet.
We kept mud boots on hand for days like this. Our teenage client put them on, and we started walking toward his horse.
Ten steps in, his feet stopped moving.
The mud held him in place. His body froze. He stood there, stuck, unable or unwilling to take another step.
His mother’s instinct was immediate and deeply understandable. She scanned the area, and looked for a way to make it much easier for him. She looked for something solid he could step on, or even a way around. In other words, she looked for a solution that would remove the discomfort and keep her son safe.
It reminded us that when a child is suicidal, parents carry an unbearable weight. Asking more of them can feel dangerous, and any stress can feel like too much. So often, accommodation becomes a form of protection.
That day, though, the work was not about avoiding the mud.
The work was about getting through it.
Depression is often described as heaviness. Legs that will not lift. A body that feels weighted down. An inability to mobilize even when the mind wants to.
What was happening in the pasture mirrored exactly what this young person experienced every morning when he tried to get out of bed. Every night when he tried to turn off the video games and rest. Every time life asked him to move when he did not feel capable.
Standing there in the mud, regulation did not mean calming down. It meant organizing his body to mobilize.
We slowed everything down. We noticed what his feet were doing. What his hands could help with. How he could grip the top of the boot and pull while his legs worked to free themselves, step by step.
Sometimes his foot came out of the boot. Sometimes the mud grabbed again. We adjusted. We paused. But we kept going.
That’s when we realized: this was the therapy..
His body learned, in real time, how to keep moving through something unpleasant without panic and without collapse. His nervous system practiced staying engaged while doing something hard. The exact skills he needed in daily life were being shaped at that moment.
That session became a turning point.
We did not plan to do “mud therapy” that day. Our intention had been to work with his horse – the horse he had chosen to work with in therapy. Yet the environment had something else to offer, and our job was to listen.
Experiential work unfolds inside living systems. Weather, terrain, horses, humans, timing, and internal states all participate. Flow, in this context, means responding to what is actually happening rather than forcing an agenda.
The journey to the horse was the work. The mud was the work.
Learning how to mobilize through discomfort, with support and pacing, was the work.
This is where meaningful change often begins. Not through explanation or insight alone, but through embodied experience that reorganizes the nervous system from the inside out.
By the end of that session, something had shifted.
The way our young client learned to pull his foot free became the way he learned to initiate movement in other parts of his life. The steadiness he practiced there supported him when things felt overwhelming elsewhere. The memory of having moved through something difficult stayed with him.
This is the power of experiential work. It meets people where they are, with what is real, and offers a way forward that does not require pretending things are easier than they are.
Flow does not always feel smooth. Sometimes it feels muddy. Heavy. Slow. Uncertain.
And sometimes, that is exactly where healing begins.
Experiences like this cannot be fully understood through words alone.
You can understand the idea that flow is not always easy. You can recognize that discomfort often plays a role in meaningful change. Yet the real learning happens when your own body is asked to stay present, adjust, and respond inside a living system.
This is why the Fundamentals of Natural Lifemanship exists.
The Fundamentals of NL is about learning how to notice what is happening in real time, how to work with timing and pressure, and how to stay connected when things feel uncertain or unscripted.
It is a place where you can practice responding to what is actually in front of you. To learn how to support movement when people feel stuck. . . when you feel stuck. To develop the capacity to stay engaged when ease is not available.
If this story resonates, there is space for you inside that work.
You can learn more and register for the Fundamentals here.
When students reach the in-person portion of their Certification journey, a couple questions often come up: Which in-person training can I count toward my certification? And, which one should I take?
There are four different trainings that you can count toward basic certification, depending on your goals and where you are in your journey.
Each option fulfills the in-person training requirement in its own way, and each offers a unique kind of learning and transformation.
Working as a Natural Lifemanship professional asks quite a bit of you – there is attunement to your horses, yourself, others, and then the dynamic unfolding of the relationships between. These in-person trainings offer deep dives into each of these elements.
You can continue to grow and develop yourself through intensive exploration of your horse’s experience, your own personal experience, or apply all you have learned in a practical experience.
If your next step calls you to the horses, Connected Horsemanship is the place to go.
Led by NL equine professionals, Connected Horsemanship is an opportunity to deeply attune to the horse’s experience. You will observe, practice, and apply the principles of connection directly in the arena. This training is for those who want to refine their skill and clarity in working with horses— the NL way.
Many who attend describe Connected Horsemanship as a return to the heart of the work. If you are ready to grow your horsemanship and reconnect with the roots of relational work through the equine experience, Connected Horsemanship is a powerful and meaningful next step.
Details: 6 participants, 3 instructors, individualized time with one horse for 3 days, $1999
If you feel called to look within yourself, the Personal Immersion is where that work finds purchase. This training, which is really more of a retreat, offers a supportive space to explore your own story through the principles of connection. It is designed for practitioners who are ready to focus on personal growth so they can deepen their self-awareness and understand the inner patterns that shape how they show up for others.
Facilitated by NL therapists and coaches, you’ll be on the receiving end of what Natural Lifemanship principles have to offer. The Personal Immersion experience often becomes a turning point for practitioners and an opportunity to reconnect with what sustains them – to know healing work from the inside out.
Details: 8 participants, 6-7 instructors, 4 days, includes a 3 hour Adult Attachment Interview prior to attending, $2499
The Practicums are where it all comes together. This is where knowledge begins to take shape in the real world.
Both the Fundamentals and Intensive Practicums offer structured, hands-on learning experiences led by an MH and EP team of Natural Lifemanship trainers. They are designed to help you integrate what you’ve learned so you can bring together horse work, facilitation, and relational awareness into a cohesive, embodied practice.
The Practicums bring together practical skill and professional growth in one immersive experience. They are designed to help you integrate the human and equine sides of the work while receiving real-time feedback and mentorship.
If your goal is to deepen your professional practice, connect what you’ve learned to real-world experience, and grow within a supportive community, the Practicums are the place to do it.
Fundamentals details: 15 participants, 2 instructors, 3 days spent with a variety of horses (think breadth of experience), $999
Intensive details: 12 participants, 3 instructors, you and one other person build a relationship with one horse (think depth of experience), $1299
Each in-person training offers something distinct and valuable. Connected Horsemanship strengthens your relationship with horses and deepens your understanding of connection from their perspective. The Personal Immersion allows you to turn inward so you can tend to your own story and inner world. The Practicums invite you to bring it all together where what you know is translated into what you CAN do.
But know this: there is no single right path, only the one that best meets you where you are. You may be drawn to refine your horsemanship, or to explore your own healing, or to put your learning into practice with structured support. Each choice will lead you to growth, and each will bring you closer to the kind of practitioner you are becoming.
The important thing is to begin.
Each in-person training represents a meaningful turn in your journey—whether it’s deepening your connection with horses, diving into your own inner work, or bringing your knowledge to life in the field.
You don’t need to know the entire path. You just need to listen for the next right step.
Maybe that step is refining your horsemanship, or tending to your own healing, or practicing what you’ve learned with real-time feedback. Wherever you feel called, there’s a place for you to grow.
Our 2026 trainings are open for registration—and designed to meet you exactly where you are.
The journey continues, one experience at a time. One moment at a time. One brave, intentional step at a time.
And we’ll be walking with you, every step of the way.
One message says, “Be firm.” Another says, “Be gentle.” Parents are left swinging between extremes, unsure of what will truly help their child feel safe, grow strong, and stay connected.
As professionals who walk alongside families, we know the weight parents carry. And we also know the difference it makes when they finally have a framework that honors both love and limits.
The insights parents gain through NL are not abstract theories. They are truths that reshape daily life almost immediately.
In a recent training, a parent who is also a life coach shared that she had studied parenting models for years. Yet it was the NL framework that brought her to tears. For the first time, she could see her child’s behavior through the lens of healthy development of the brain and nervous system. “Now I get it,” she said.
This is the kind of shift we witness again and again. It is not about adding more skills to a parent’s toolbox. It is about giving them a lens that changes everything they see.
One of the most important lessons NL offers is that every behavior carries meaning. A meltdown can signal a nervous system in distress. Withdrawal can reflect a child’s attempt to feel safe when the world feels overwhelming.
Take the young boy I worked with in therapeutic foster care who was being restrained sixteen times a day. Traditional approaches of consequences and punishments only deepened his distress. When caregivers began applying NL principles in regulating their own bodies, staying present through his storm, and offering rhythm instead of control, restraints slowly disappeared. Within a month, they were no longer needed.
Or consider the quiet little girl who seemed to be “losing” her ability to learn. In truth, she was dissociating as a way of surviving sexual trauma. Through NL-informed support, she regained presence, re-engaged in school, and watched her grades rise again.
These stories remind us that healing begins not with fixing behaviors, but with helping the brain and body return to safety and connection.
Parents often cry when they first learn this work. Not out of despair, but out of relief. For the first time, they see their children—and themselves—through a lens of compassion, possibility, and hope.
As professionals, guiding families into this way of being is some of the most meaningful work we can do. It does not mean handing parents a script to follow. It means helping them embody presence, attunement, and rhythm. It means walking with them as they learn to stay in the hard moments without punishing or rescuing, but instead holding steady and offering support.
This is the heart of Natural Lifemanship.
The NL for Young Children & Parents course was created for those who walk alongside families in their hardest and most tender seasons. It invites you to see parenting through a new lens, one that is grounded in science yet deeply human.
Why take this course? Because the way we understand children shapes the way we respond to them. And when that understanding shifts, everything else shifts with it.
When you step into this work, you begin to see how trauma and stress shape the developing brain, and how even the smallest interactions can either build or weaken connection. You learn how to guide parents toward presence and regulation so that they can meet their children with steadiness and compassion, even in the most challenging moments. Most of all, you witness hope returning to families who once felt stuck in cycles of frustration or despair.
This is not about adding one more tool or technique to your practice. It is about deepening your capacity to support parents in ways that truly transform family life.
When you shift from offering strategies to cultivating presence and connection, the families you serve begin to experience lasting change. This is the heart of what NL makes possible.
Together, we can give parents more than advice. We can offer them a way of being that grows connection, healing, and hope.
NL for Young Children and Parents
Online, structured, self-paced course with optional group discussions
Applying NL principles to your work with young children and parents
can transform lives and enhance your practice.
Registration is now open.
We hope you’ll join us on this next step in deepening our understanding of children and families.
I remember exactly where I was when the world shut down in 2020.
I was in the middle of leading one of my favorite trainings: our Personal Immersion. We had just begun diving into attachment history and attachment wounding. It was deep, sacred work.
I stepped inside to grab water and tissues for someone, and the woman hosting us looked at me wide-eyed. She had just come from the store, and the shelves were empty. She showed me a picture. Just the day before, everything had looked normal. That day, it looked like mayhem.
By the time I got home, I walked into the living room and there was an announcement on the TV about the lockdown. That moment, much like 9/11, etched itself into my memory. I’ll never forget it.
The next morning, our entire staff gathered on a call. At the time, our livelihood came from hosting 67 in-person trainings every year. In one day, all of it evaporated. We wouldn’t be able to make payroll in three weeks if we didn’t do something.
So we did something big.
We dropped everything else and worked like I’ve never seen us work before. Day and night, texting at 1:00 a.m., everyone contributing to one singular task: create an online version of the Fundamentals of NL.
In just three weeks, we launched the first fully virtual Fundamentals.
And you know what? It worked.
Not only did it keep our community connected and learning in a time of deep isolation, but it kept our business afloat and expanded our reach in ways we hadn’t imagined. People could learn at their own pace. They could pause, breathe, reflect—something especially important when studying trauma. They could rewatch videos of horse interactions and see subtle moments they might have missed in person.
For many, it was life-changing.
Something has shifted again.
In 2020, online learning was a lifeline. It gave us connection when the world forced us into isolation. But five years later, so many of us are exhausted from endless video learning.
I’ve said it myself more times than I can count: I am tired of watching videos online all by myself.
The truth is, pre-recorded content can only go so far. Teaching is about attunement, about watching how a lesson lands, listening for questions, and adjusting in real time. That’s what I miss the most.
When we taught in person, the content was always evolving. We adjusted constantly based on student feedback, new research, and what we were learning in the moment.
But with pre-recorded videos, the content stayed largely the same. For five years, while research advanced and our own organizational learning deepened, the Fundamentals curriculum stayed mostly the same.
But that’s about to change.
This fall marks the biggest shift to Fundamentals since 2020.
For the first time, you can join us for LIVE Fundamentals: eight weeks of real-time learning with me, Tim, Kate, and Tanner. Instead of static videos, you’ll step into dynamic, relational teaching that responds to your needs and the rest of the group’s––in the moment.
LIVE Fundamentals also gives us the chance to finally integrate what we’ve been wanting to bring forward: updated research, new practices, and more effective ways of teaching.
Teaching live allows me and the rest of our team to attune to the group and to notice what’s resonating, respond to questions as they surface, and adjust in real time. That shared rhythm is what makes live learning so powerful, and it’s something pre-recorded content simply can’t replicate.
Live learning comes with commitment, from you and from us.
For you, it means setting aside time twice a week at 3:00 to 5:00 pm, four hours of synchronous learning. It is less flexible than asynchronous videos, but far more rewarding. Synchronous means rhythmic. It means we come together, find a rhythm as a group, and move through this learning in step with one another.
For us, it means showing up fully prepared, to not only teach what we know, but to build on it based on where the group is going. It means customizing the training, not just repeating a script. It’s a bigger investment for all of us, and a bigger return.
Here’s how we’ve structured it:
So if you’ve felt like you missed something the first time, this is your chance. You don’t have to travel or spend money for lodging —just real-time, relational learning, right where you are.
In 2020, we pivoted out of necessity.
In 2025, we’re pivoting out of vision.
We don’t have to accept the current state of disconnection as the new normal. We can take what worked from 2020, leave what no longer serves, and create the future of learning together.
That’s what this shift is about.
So I’ll leave you with this: What did 2020 change for you? And what kind of learning do you long for now?
If you’re ready for connection;
If you want to experience this work in real time;
If you’re ready to revisit Fundamentals, or step into it for the very first time, I invite you to join us.
Fundamentals of Natural Lifemanship: LIVE Cohort
September 8 – December 3, 2025
Online, with weekly live sessions
Register for Fundamentals LIVE >>
And if you’ve already taken the Fundamentals and want to just take the LIVE learning component, please email Cl***@****************ip.com for a discount code.
I hope you’ll join us in this new chapter of learning.
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