She was standing on the mounting block. Her horse had walked right up beside her, just like they had practiced, again and again, over weeks of small invitations. This was the moment. She was one breath away from swinging her leg over and riding for the first time. And...
When the Bike Is Too Hard: What Mabel Taught Me About the Way Children Grow
by Bettina Shultz-Jobe, LPC, NBCC | Jun 18, 2026 | Applied Principles, Case Studies, Parenting and Counseling Children
The moments that teach us the most are rarely the ones we plan for. They happen on sidewalks, in living rooms, in the middle of an ordinary afternoon when something becomes harder than expected and a child looks to us to help them figure out what to do with that. This...
NL for Young Children & Parents: Growing Connection, Healing, and Hope
by Bettina Shultz-Jobe, LPC, NBCC | Sep 17, 2025 | Equine Assisted Trainings, Parenting and Counseling Children, Testimonials & Reflections
Every parent longs to see their child thrive. Yet often, the tools they are given either fall short or leave them feeling conflicted. One message says, “Be firm.” Another says, “Be gentle.” Parents are left swinging between extremes, unsure of what will truly help...
The 5 Steps for Repair in a Relationship
by Bettina Shultz-Jobe, LPC, NBCC | Jul 24, 2024 | Applied Principles, Parenting and Counseling Children, Personal Growth
By Bettina Shultz-Jobe I recently wrote a blog about how we can build strong connections with ourselves and others through rupture and repair. Many of us have not had healthy rupture and repair modeled in our lives and are, therefore, just beginning the journey of...
Building Strong Connections through Rupture and Repair
by Bettina Shultz-Jobe, LPC, NBCC | Jul 23, 2024 | Applied Principles, Parenting and Counseling Children, Personal Growth
By Bettina Shultz-Jobe and Kate Naylor One of my mentors and teachers, Margery Segal, once said that if you’ve made it to the end of a therapy (or coaching, wellness, etc.) session and haven’t needed to make a repair yet, that you need to hurry up and make a mistake....
Repairing Relationships When They’ve Gone to Pot
by Bettina Shultz-Jobe, LPC, NBCC | Mar 21, 2020 | Applied Principles, Parenting and Counseling Children
Currently, many of us parents are taking the meaning of “work/family balance” to an entirely new level. Our children (and maybe spouses) are home and we are searching for innovative ways to continue to support our clients and pay our own bills. Additionally, we are...
The Difference Between Having Boundaries and Setting Boundaries
by Bettina Shultz-Jobe, LPC, NBCC | Aug 5, 2019 | Basics of Natural Lifemanship, Case Studies, Parenting and Counseling Children, Personal Growth
In this field, it is not uncommon to hear people answer the question “Why Horses?” with some variation of how horses help us learn how to set healthy boundaries. Is this true? Well, it depends. . . In Natural Lifemanship we believe that horses help us...
Is There a Difference Between a Tantrum and a Meltdown?
by Kate Naylor | Jul 25, 2019 | Applied Principles, Parenting and Counseling Children
By Kate Naylor & Bettina Shultz-Jobe A couple weeks ago, we shared this meme created by Our Mama Village about tantrums. After several long discussions on that Facebook post, we here at NaturalLifemanship felt we should write on the topic to help clarify the...
What I Learned from My Dog with Attachment Trauma
by Kate Naylor | Dec 23, 2017 | Applied Principles, Parenting and Counseling Children
The greatest lesson my dog is teaching me is that building a relationship… doesn’t just take time, it takes intentionality over time.










